Bullies exist because they have been bullied or abused themselves. Sometimes they break the cycle, but sometimes they do not. As an adult who lives a happy and stable life, I know that people who try to intimidate you are really just struggling with their own issues. They are angry, and sad, and don’t know how to be contributing members to their community.
I was bullied as a kid and didn’t know what to do with that. I had a group of girls corner me on the school ground and they told me that I was ugly, that I wasn’t welcome, and that I should leave town. I then left town, because I could. There were other reasons that I left but those mean girls were a large part of it.
I moved in with my Dad and Step Mom (I call her Mom)(Hi, Mom!) and I learned about God and about Jesus and that path led to Matthew and then Graham and Nathan and Emily.
I was lucky, because I had the option to escape. Most people aren’t so lucky, and bullies are still around because kids are still being hurt and are paying that hurt forward. Friends of mine have put a huge effort into making our wee town bully-free and in anticipation of ‘Pink Shirt Day’, school kids and teachers and law enforcement and pretty much HALF OF OUR TOWN converged on Main Street to make this video.
Will it stop every bully? Probably not. The thing about it that makes me happy is that people are talking about it. Kids are being informed that bullying behavior is not acceptable. They are being told about who to talk to, and what to do when someone is making them feel less that the unique being that they are. They know that bullying is not acceptable and they are being given the tools with which to deal with it when it arises.
I love our community so hard.