Mommalicious
Date: Wednesday June 25, 2008Posted in: Emily, Family, Graham, Nathan, Parenting, domestic bliss
I remember when Matthew and I were first married, I would often sit back, look at him, and take in the whole situation.
I am MARRIED. To THAT GUY. HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?
Those feelings still pop up every once in a while. We are busy beyond all reason, but when I just stop and think every few months or so, I have those same thoughts.
I am MARRIED. To MATTHEW.
Huh.
The same thing happens with the kids.
Take Tuesday, for instance. Graham had his second-last day of Kindergarten. I fired Emily and Nathan into the (Fixed!) minivan and we picked Graham up from school. We all piled back into the van and headed to the grocery store.
Graham was recounting tales of gym class! And crafts! And grade five (GRADE FIVE!) girls that he thinks are “cute”.
Nathan and Emily were making farting noises with their mouths and busting a gut. They are classy like that.
I was hit with that similar wave of conciousness.
I am a MOM. I have THREE KIDS.
HOW DID I GET HERE?
I mean, I KNOW how I got here (HELLO, Pregnancy horribleness, fourth degree tear, and RING OF FIRE) but it still seems surreal somehow. Maybe I need a two-by-four to my head to wake me up.
It is not that I regret having kids (AT ALL), but I still feel like a fifteen-year-old inside sometimes, which means that I SHOULD NOT HAVE CHILDREN.
But I am not fifteen. And I do have children. Three of the most beautiful children on the planet (This is where I insert photos of said beautiful children, while trying to be all smooth about it).
G Force.
Nate Dawg.
(Daddy may or may not have been mooning him while I was taking this shot.)
Miss Emily.
Graham.
Nathan
Emily.
And her eyes.
Maybe I am alone in these ” WHEN DID I BECOME A WIFE?” and “HOLY CRAP I AM A MOM” feelings. However. I have a feeling that I might not be alone.
Am I right?
I do find it humorous that I am so adept at realizing the completely obvious. Next thing you know I’ll realize that I am a woman. Who walks, and talks, and breathes. I am brilliant, I tell ya.
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I am not a wife or a mom yet but I imagine when it happens I will have those thoughts. Currently I just have a dog and a boyfriend and I sometimes wonder how I got here… 
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You are not alone. I have those feeling and thoughts often. They occur most often when I’m looking at the girls playing together and then I think “Whoa. Those two cute girls laughing and playing together? I’m there Momma!”
But more often, I have those feelings about Jordan. Every single ounce of my 14 year old body hoped and prayed and wished that I would marry Jordan one day. Now sometimes I look at him and see a glimpse of that 15 year old boy I fell in love with and think “HOLY CRAP! It happened.”
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Comment by Jen on June 25th, 2008 @ 6:25 amI’m so glad you wrote that. I think things like that all the time and I thought I must be the only one. It is just surreal to think I’m a wife and mother.
Comment by Leah on June 25th, 2008 @ 7:14 amI get those feelings from time to time too. I watch the kids and think “HOLY CRAP! Whoda thunk all them years ago that I, of all people, would be a MOM and a WIFE??” Its funny how we grow up and don’t remember it happening. LOL!!!
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Comment by Mel on June 25th, 2008 @ 7:36 amNot alone. When I realize it, it scares the bejeebers out of me.
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Comment by Elizabeth on June 25th, 2008 @ 8:30 amI’m not married and don’t have kids, but I do have those feelings about other things.
Sometimes I feel more like I’m 17, and wonder how on earth I got to where I am right now. It’s kinda cool, but it can freak me out at times.
You’re definitely not alone!
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Comment by Sharon on June 25th, 2008 @ 8:32 amHa - we call my brother Nate Dawg too
Emily’s eyes? Kill me! She is going to be such a heart breaker when she’s older.
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Comment by hills on June 25th, 2008 @ 8:35 amI often go through the same thing with my house. Oh my god, I own this house. I don’t life with my parents, this big huge space is mine. It is so strange.
Jenn
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Comment by Jenn on June 25th, 2008 @ 8:50 amYou’re not the only one who’s insane. I get that ALL THE TIME. Before I met Noah, I spent my time drinking, doing drugs, and I HAD A CHILD. He was the son of a pastor and he was a straight-edge Bible School student. Huh. Match made in heaven, right?
… I’m waiting for the “I’m a woman” post from you!
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Comment by Jen on June 25th, 2008 @ 9:20 amI have grown kids, and still look at them sometimes and think, “How could I possibly be their mother?” Freaky!
Comment by Heidi F on June 25th, 2008 @ 9:52 ami totally still think i’m a teenager. not the mother of three. and a wife of TEN years!
Comment by ali on June 25th, 2008 @ 10:23 amYou are SO not alone. I can’t believe I am a mother - that this perfect being was created by ME! Impossible!
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Comment by Don Mills Diva on June 25th, 2008 @ 10:59 amSO TRUE! Am a thirty year old mom of two boys (3 &1) and sometimes have no idea how I got here either….it was weird enough just typing that sentence I was driving our fifteen year old babysitter home the other day, trying to make conversation when all of a sudden I realized I was THE MOM. How in the world? I can still remember being driven home by the parents of the kids I babysat for…and I thought they were old….and they were probably my age now! Well…I guess we are just as young as we feel…at least in our heads!
I feel younger and am totally freaking out about turning 40 soon. I’m not ready. I have to young and crazy a little bit longer.
Comment by gorillabuns on June 25th, 2008 @ 12:10 pmI totally agree with what you are saying. Sometimes I look at this big ol’ belly and think to myself…how is this possible? I guess these “awww” moments are God’s way of helping us cherish the current memory. Great post, and pictures!
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Comment by Lane on June 25th, 2008 @ 12:31 pmI totally agree with what you are saying. Sometimes I look at this big ol’ belly and think to myself…how is this possible? I guess these “awww” moments are God’s way of helping us cherish the current memory. Great post, and pictures!
Comment by Lane on June 25th, 2008 @ 12:32 pmIt’s true. I feel exactly the same way. Like how the heck did I end up with a nearly six year old?! Where does the time go?
Vapour. Vanished. Gone.
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Comment by christy on June 25th, 2008 @ 1:10 pmI had this moment when I was turning 26 ( I think it was 26 - it may have been 27. I can’t remember… the process of aging is so cruel ). I was having a terrible time realizing that I wasn’t 18 anymore. I wrote a blog post about it - pouring out my heart and everything… it didn’t help. I still had a birthday, I was still whining about my gazillions of gray hairs, but thankfully I was still married to my amazing husband and had my kids to love on me.
It is shocking to take stock of our lives at times….
You are blessed… those kids of yours are magnificent.
-Andrea
btw - I am glad to hear that someone else’s husband/father of her children moons people too. I thought I was the only one. Perhaps a ‘married to a mooner’ club would be in order.
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Comment by Andrea on June 25th, 2008 @ 1:18 pmYeah, I get those feelings sometimes. Mostly when I’m observing my kids from a distance and they don’t know I’m there. Like when I arrive at school early and spy on Tyler through the Kindy gates and then spy on Ethan through his classroom window. I see them doing/saying things and think, “wow, cool kid!” and then realise “hey, they are MINE”.
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Comment by Hannah on June 25th, 2008 @ 1:23 pmThis happens to me too… I go all, WHEN DID THIS HAPPEN. And then I remember.
At the same time I can’t remember what it was like before I was married to Jay and before I was a Mommy.
But that could just be old age.
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That last picture of Emily is priceless.
I think we all go through that. I have those same kind of things when I’m like “when did I become such a grown up? Paying rent and thinking about 401k?”
But then the alternative is being 22 again and no thanks! I like 30 just fine!
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Oh you are definitely not alone. I think these things too - especially the stepmom part. I think, “If you would have told me I would be HERE 5 years ago I would have laughed in your face.” I love my life though thank goodness (on most days…LOL)
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Comment by Smilf on June 25th, 2008 @ 2:13 pmI HEAR YOU. Yesterday, as I was boarding a flight, I was thinking, “Dude, I am traveling, for work. How am I even allowed to board a plane without my mom?”
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Comment by Rhi on June 25th, 2008 @ 3:10 pmYeah, for me it’s “I’m paying bills? And buying my own groceries? I have a job? An apartment? Wha? Has no one figured out I’m just a kid?” 
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Just chiming in to add to the voices above… you are not alone! What gets me is realizing that MY mom was thinking those thoughts (maybe) when I was a little girl, when I thought she was GOD and knew everything and was totally in control. I’m just glad our kids have no clue how dumbfounded we sometimes are that we are actually grownups charged with the awesome (in the original sense of the word) task of taking care of these amazing beings.
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Comment by Kaza on June 25th, 2008 @ 6:17 pmSometimes I am out with Little ‘Ny and think to myself “are people starring at me because I am too young to have a kid?” Well I am 30+ so what is the big deal? First, I look young. Second, I am shocked I have an incredible almost 3 year old. I don’t know why I feel like that, but sometimes I just do.
Comment by red lotus mama on June 25th, 2008 @ 6:38 pmI tell ‘ya, I look around AT LEAST once a week and go how did I get in my own house with my own husband and kids? What?? It boggles the mind…
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Comment by Elaine on June 25th, 2008 @ 7:47 pmI’m like this about everything. I’m married. WHOA. I’m a mother. WHAT?!? AT some point, I got a driver’s license…WHAT? I have some days where I just feel like that all day. haha.
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Comment by Shamelessly Sassy on June 25th, 2008 @ 8:59 pmI can relate to the entire thing too. Sometimes when I meet up with ol’ highschool pals, it feels weird to say I’ve been married 9 years and have 3 kids…as I am still really only 19.
Comment by SarahD on June 25th, 2008 @ 9:35 pmGO GRAHAM! Good to see your uncle is teaching you well 
I totally hear you on the “how did this happen” train of thought! My friends are getting engaged/married and I’m moving…so it’s more of a “When did we start being allowed to make these decisions??”
Ahh, good times.
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Comment by Dayna on June 26th, 2008 @ 9:10 amI do this CONSTANTLY. With my husband, and with my job. I’m like Holy Hell. How did they let me become an attorney?
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Comment by slynnro on June 26th, 2008 @ 9:57 am
Girls in grade five? Wow - He likes the cougars! Your three kids are adorable!
Comment by Michele on June 25th, 2008 @ 12:45 am