When Graham was born, I was immediately inundated with people exclaiming, “He looks just like his Daddy!”
I thought he looked somewhat like my family too, so I hauled out the baby pictures. Based on our baby pictures, he actually looked more like me. I would tell people this everytime they told me that he looked like his dad, and their eyes would glaze over and they would just nod and smile.
Why did I feel the need that my son had to look like me? Did I need additional proof that he was indeed mine? Was pushing his ginormous head out of a small opening not enough to convince me that he was my spawn? Apparently not.
And why is it that I wanted him to look like me? Do I think I am so amazingly good looking that I should want him to look like me? That is definitely not the case. Though those who either knew me or have seen pictures of me in my early teenage years will attest that I have come a loooong way, baby. There really was nowhere else to go but up.
I don’t know what it is, but you like to hear that your kids look like you. I’m trying to be sensitive about this when I say the same things to my friends. I fail miserably, but I’m trying.
When Nathan came along, people would tell me that he looked even more like Matthew than Graham did. That he was the spitting image of his Dad. And I would pipe up and say…he sure does. Nathan does not look like me at all. I look at him and realize why I was awake and drug-free during his birth. It is so I would have that memory to convince me that he is actually flesh of my flesh.
When Emily was born, my Mommy was here. She told me that Emily was the spitting image of me. And my Mom would be the expert on this. She pushed MY giant head out of a small opening.
I pulled out the baby pictures last night, and finally found one that was scannable (is that a word?). You see, most pictures of me are poor quality. They are either polaroid, or just plain blurry. They are also, ahem, almost 32 years old.
Here’s the one that got my attention. I’m being held by my Nana, who passed away in January.
When I put the picture on the scanner, the writing on the back said “9 weeks, 6 days”.
That’s exactly how old Emily was yesterday. Weird.
I’ll save posting a picture of Matthew as a baby because he was, well, a little “breathtaking” in that stage of life. Sorry Honey, you know it’s true. You’re hot now, and that’s all that counts.
Here’s a picture of Emily for you to compare. I picked one with no smile so you could do a true comparison.
I think she has a bit of Matthew’s look, but seems to have my eyes, nose, mouth and chin. I think I finally got my “Mini Me.”
Am I right?
I know what you mean. I think I’ve been told by maybe 2 people that Abby looks like me. Sigh … I don’t know why I wish she was my identical twin.
I definitely do see the resemblance between you and your girl though!
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That is so cool, the resemblance is right there in that photo…I really love old photos!
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I’ve always thought she looks like you. Nose down she’s you, eyes up she’s Matt.
She looks pretty concerned in that picture though.
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Uhhh…yeah.
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Yay! You definitely have a mini-me!!
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She TOTALLY looks like you. I find, in general, that people tend to think boys look like their dads and girls look like their moms.
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She does look like you, Ange!
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Oh that look, she looks so concerned! She is mini-you. Totally and if it counts, I think the boys look like you too. Graham more than Nathan, but they got there mama in them.
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I hear ya! Maybe one person has EVER said either one of my boys look like anyone but Daddy.
Emily is the spitting image of you – very cool
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Definitely a mini-you : )
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Spittin’ image! Thanks for the vintage photo…always fun to see what people used to look like.
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Wow… that is amazing.. little twinnies!!!
I always think it’s funny how each family see their genes more then the other,like battle of the strongest genes!!!
She is sooooo pretty Angella.. and you were (and are still) too!
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She definitely looks like you when I see the pic of you and your mom- beautiful genes you both have!
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So when you say that Matthew was “breathtaking” when he was young…does that mean he was a really ugly kid or really beautiful kid?? I am confused.
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He was a little…awkward…as a baby, but a really cute toddler
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Wow-genetics are amazing…I’m sure she’ll be a ‘looker’ like you!
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She is definately you. I love having my kids look like me. You can see James in Haylei but you see our side too, and Keenan has always been me.
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So cute! It’s always fun to find things like that.
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I have trouble believing from the pictures I’ve seen of you that you were anything but beautiful. A lot of people or most people go through an awkward chubby stage sometime in their life though. I’ve been there, junior high eek! I’ve been starting to get a little defensive, not seriously, about everyone saying my youngest looks so much like my husband. Umm well you’ve never seen baby pictures of me. Emily’s one lucky girl to look like her mama!
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Every since I saw a picture of Emily, I thought she was a Mini you!
But I still haven’t seen her in REAL life, I may think otherwise when I meet the little Miss Sweet!
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