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Once upon a time, I took that famed Myers Briggs test and it told me that I am an introverted extrovert. To be more specific, I am an INFJ. I re-did the test with same results, and Urban Dictionary gave me the definition of that particular profile.

A result for the Myers-Briggs Personality test. It is the rarest type of personality because only about 1% of the population has it- 1.5% for women and .5% for men. People who are INFJs are usually quiet, but very emotional, observant, and intuitive. They like to build very close bonds with people and cherish quality friendships. They are considered the dreamers and always thinking about great possibilities in the future. These people usually love music because it can express their feelings.

The letters stand for: I- introvert N-intuitive F-feeling J-judging Person 1: Gabe [Angella?] is so quiet when we are around a big group, but when we are in a smaller group, he sounds really interesting and passionate.

Okay, that’s a little bit creepy in how accurate it is. But on the upside (?) it the rarest type of personality. I’m special! And rare! And probably a complete freak show!

On a related note, I’ve heard a lot of noise about a book called Quiet. I had a Chapters GC courtesy of the Mom Central ladies and ordered Quiet. It arrived and when I looked at the cover, I wasn’t sure if it was something that I needed to read. The subtitle is “The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking.” If you ask my husband (and my kids)(and probably my close friends), I can’t seem to stop talking. At least when I’m with them.

A few weeks ago my friend Heidi posted a review of the book and it made me walk over to the bookshelf and open up Quiet. There’s a twenty-question quiz in the first chapter that sucked me in. According to the quiz, I am 60% introverted and 40% extroverted. I asked the same questions of Matthew and he scored 19 out of 20 on the introverted side of the scale. Neither was a major surprise, but as I read through the book it gave me so much insight into both my personality and his.

Matthew scored 95% in being an introvert, yet he stands in front of our church every Sunday morning and does an object lesson, then leads the group session when we all head down to Sunday school. I am an extrovert with close friends and put on “the extroverted show” in the multiple volunteer situations that I find myself in. Both of us need downtime to recharge, daily. The book talks about those of us who are able to “act” extroverted in certain situations and that’s exactly as I’ve always seen myself as an actor — of sorts — at events like a large blog conference, or at a work-related event with people I do not really know. I’m not being disingenuous in my words or actions, but I’m forcing myself to live outside of my comfort zone and to treat the people I interact with as I would after I’ve gotten past my initial introverted awkwardness.

Introducing myself to people I encounter can seem like an insurmountable obstacle at times, and that makes me worry about how I appear. I am a pretty dynamic and outgoing and extroverted person with people I know, but to those I don’t know well (and whom I am shy around), I may seem unapproachable or unfriendly or exclusionary. I’m not, at all.

I’m just an introverted extrovert, standing in front of people I may or may not know (yet), asking you to have a peek into my psyche. We can totally be friends, we just need to break the ice.

I’d love to hear how you all see yourselves, and if you’ve taken the Myers-Briggs test or read Quiet. It’s been consuming my thoughts lately.

 

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  1. heidikins April 9, 2013 12:52 am edit

    I’m introverted as well, but also do quite well in extroverted situations without really feeling like I’m “acting.” I’ve never taken Myer-Briggs, but am quite interested in how I would rank.

    So glad you read and enjoyed/found useful the Quiet book, I have been talking about it non-stop for weeks now. Love!

    xox

    1. angella April 9, 2013 11:34 pm edit

      Thanks for inspiring me to actually read it!

      xo

  2. Hannah April 9, 2013 1:02 am edit

    I’ve done the Myers-Briggs test many times over the years (usually for work). I am an ISFJ.

    A few years ago, at one of the many team building/personality profile workshops I have attended, the facilitator described introverts and extroverts this way: “An introvert thinks to speak, while an extrovert speaks to think.” I thought that summed it up pretty well. It’s so true that not all introverts are shy and not all extroverts love being the centre of attention.

    1. angella April 9, 2013 11:35 pm edit

      It’s like a sliding scale…

  3. Katie April 9, 2013 8:57 am edit

    Oh good gosh, that’s me to a “T.” I KNOW people think I’m standoff-ish and rude and I’m fully aware that’s how I come across but that’s just…me. Give me a group of family or friends though? Won’t – can’t? – shut up.

    1. angella April 9, 2013 11:35 pm edit

      “Won’t – can’t? – shut up.”

      ME TOO.

  4. Michelle April 9, 2013 9:48 am edit

    I am also this way. I have taken this test and I have scored tied on the E\I and tied on the S\N, but my last two are FJ. I know that people think that I am standoff-ish and that I don’t talk to them so I don’t “like” them. I am working on being more extroverted. But put me with a group of friends and I never stop talking!

    1. angella April 9, 2013 11:36 pm edit

      *fist bump*

  5. Jen Wilson April 9, 2013 11:13 am edit

    That website is too confusing! Maybe when I have more time this afternoon during nap time.

    This: ” I am a pretty dynamic and outgoing and extroverted person with people I know, but to those I don’t know well (and whom I am shy around), I may seem unapproachable or unfriendly or exclusionary. I’m not, at all.” is exactly me. I’m pretty sure I fall into the introverted extrovert category. I had a great chat with one of my friends in Terrace about exactly this.

    Fascinating, our minds are.

    1. angella April 9, 2013 11:37 pm edit

      Aren’t they? So much to unravel.

  6. ememby April 9, 2013 12:08 pm edit

    I’m the same way – an introverted extrovert (though I always score as an “E” on MB) but, like you, I am extroverted with people I already know. My husband is an extroverted introvert – he will talk with strangers with no problem for ages but about nothing important and doesn’t seek out many friendships, just happy with the handful that he has and can spend hours alone whereas I thrive when I’m with my people. It is fascinating to me… the more I think about it, the more it helps me understand each of us and how we interact.

    1. angella April 9, 2013 11:37 pm edit

      TOTALLY. And two of the ones I waffled between which ones to choose. I am ALL THE THINGS.

      (Ha.)

  7. Annika April 9, 2013 12:26 pm edit

    I’ve never taken the full M-B test (I used to joke that I’m whatever type can’t sit through the test) but I’ve taken short, fun versions (e.g. what Harry Potter character are you by M-B type) and almost always get INFJ. Occasionally I get INTJ, usually if I waffled on one question (and it I change my answer, I switch back).

    1. angella April 9, 2013 11:38 pm edit

      I waffled on two of them. This test shouldn’t be so HARD.

  8. RebeccaL April 9, 2013 2:50 pm edit

    I’m an ISFJ. I am decidedly an Introvert. Not many Extrovert tendencies here! I can appear to be Extroverted, but I have to prepare for it and afterwards I am exhausted. And I absolutely hate small talk and am so bad at it. That can make me seem over socially awkward and also means that I over share at times.

    I’ve read Quiet and it helped me heal from years of being told that my preferences are wrong or somehow less than. It also helped me see areas in my life where I need to push myself out of my comfort zone and where it is ok to just be myself.

    1. angella April 9, 2013 11:40 pm edit

      Oh, I love that it helped you!

      I think that Matthew is much like you, though he hasn’t taken the MB test. He looks SO extroverted at church functions, but he needs a lot of down time to recover.

  9. Nenette April 9, 2013 7:26 pm edit

    Oh, that’s exactly me too! INFJ. But very close with the S/N.
    I’ve been described as an introverted extrovert as well. I always thought that extroversion and introversion thing was either-or. Very surprised that people could be a combination of both. Hm.

    1. angella April 9, 2013 11:40 pm edit

      We’re such unique creatures, hey?

  10. Rachel April 9, 2013 8:36 pm edit

    I am an INFJ as well. I wonder if you attract your own type as a blogger? Supposedly we are pretty rare! Definitely extroverted with family and friends, and to a lesser degree at work and while volunteering. I think it has something to do with growing up as a pastor’s daughter. It wasn’t acceptar to not interact with the congregation, no matter how much I wanted to hid under the pew with a book!

    1. angella April 9, 2013 11:41 pm edit

      Oh, gosh. I was even more introverted as a teenager. I would have been hiding under the pew with you! (But reading my own book.)

  11. Elaine A. April 10, 2013 12:06 am edit

    ESFJ, those are my letters. Hubby calls me the “life of the party”. And I would go to one or a blog conference every day if I could! ;)

    I think this stuff is so interesting, btw…

  12. Sharon April 10, 2013 12:15 am edit

    I am definitely an introvert, and am becoming more and more of one as the years go by. In my early 20′s when I first did the MB test, I was an XSFJ. However, I’d definitely classify myself as an ISFJ now.

    I am very shy, and get extremely anxious in social situations, which makes parts of my job very difficult, although it’s a good challenge for me. However, I would be most happy if I was alone at home. With my very good friends I can be loud and extroverted, but only when I know and trust them well enough.

    My degree’s in Psychology, and one of my favourite classes was one about all the major psychological tests (we took AND administered all of them, including the MB), and to this day that is the most fascinating course I’ve ever taken. I’m still so fascinated by people and what makes them (and me!) tick. Even though I didn’t end up going into the psychology field, it’s something I’ll probably always be interested in.

  13. Kristen April 10, 2013 1:12 pm edit

    I, too, am an INFJ (which might explain why you and I clicked so easily). And now, I’m totally going to have to read Quiet. I’m really interested. I find this stuff FASCINATING.

  14. Steph April 13, 2013 11:41 am edit

    I am an ENFP. I read the description and wondered who was stalking me & then writing about it on the Internet. ;)

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