Tonight on the evening news, we heard that a football coach was being honoured with an honourary doctorate degree in law. This prompted a discussion between Honey and I. What can this guy do with his doctorate? Can he open up a law firm and start practicing? And why a law degree? Why not chemistry, or accounting (my bias)? Or is it just something for him to frame and display on his office wall? Everyone else may know the answers to these questions, but I haven’t the faintest idea…and I’m too tired to try and find out.
I came to the realization that those of us with children (me especially) have an honourary doctorate in parenting. I didn’t go to school for this. I read a couple books and thought I had it figured out. Then I actually had kids and threw all of my preconceived ideas out the window.
Today was one of those days where I realized that I haven’t the faintest clue about parenting. I love my kids beyond description that is for sure. But am I doing a good job of raising them to be great adults? I am not so sure. They seem to be pretty great in their own right. I’m just praying I don’t bung it up.
I’m so emotional and “not myself” on the inside, but I’m trying my best to stay on even keel for their sakes. They don’t understand terms like “hormonal maniac” and “crazy pregnant lady.” I am doing my best to keep it that way.
Despite all of my griping and moaning about the discomfort I have had with this pregnancy it still seems surreal that I will actually be holding our newborn baby a week from now at the latest. I worry that that adding one more to the mix just might make them revoke my honourary doctorate.
I see women who have three (or more!) kids who seem to be able to do it all. Work, chauffer everyone everywhere, keep it all running smoothly, and still look amazing. I’m currently aiming for leaving the house fully clothed. Beyond that, we’ll have to see.
I am sure that we will get into the swing of things and somehow get through our life relatively unscathed. Matthew and I are a great team. We really are an even balance and I think our kids will benefit from this. The kids also know they are loved. We kiss and hug them all day long. We tell each other we love each other throughout the day – Matthew and I, the kids and I, the kids and Matthew, the kids to each other. I have no problem saying sorry to the kids if I snap at them, and they always reply “That’s OK, Mommy.”
I know in my head that it will all be sweet. And wonderful. And hard. And fantastic. But sometimes my heart yearns to just do it better. I guess it’s all about the journey, right? Once we get to the end it should all balance out. Here’s hoping.
You are a super momma and will be able to handle 3 kids with grace. AND look great, too.
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Appearances can be deceiving. Most of the time I may appear all together on the outside but getting to that point is exhausting, emotional, and down right hard. God only gives you what you can handle. You will do just fine with 3, it just takes a little getting used to.
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You are going to do fine, Angella. Really. Just make sure you take some “time out for yourself” (and it’s ok if the “time for yourself” is just sitting and watching your kids play).
6 1/2 days left…
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If you ever get it all figured out please tell me! I pray a lot that I won’t mess up my kids – its reassuring to know that all of our precious children have a Heavenly Father who never messes up, thank goodness! Cut yourself some slack, sounds like you’re doing a good job.
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You sound like a fabulous Mommy Angella and one more will only make you more wonderful!
Wow, it’s coming soon – sooo exciting!
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You’ll be great. Seriously. And if you EVER need to talk, you know my number. We can support each other. I know we’ll have a lot of things in common pretty soon. We’ll be in the ’3 kids club’ and so far it’s amazing! Can’t wait for you to have that little munchkin!
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I don’t know why, but any honorary degree given out by any University is always a “Doctor of Laws” , it’s technically the term given at a Doctorate of Civil Law, but can also refer to an honorary degree given to someone recognizing their contributions to society. In North American post secondary institutions it is really never awarded academically so when the “LL.D.” is behind someone’s name it’s purely nominal.
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