I always knew that I wanted to be a Mom and while I hoped that I’d get to experience both boys and girls, I truly did just want healthy babies. And while I was hoping for healthy, I might as well hold out the hope that my firstborn child would be a boy. Yes, that’s right. I wanted a boy for my firstborn child. There were a myriad of reasons, one of which being that when I was growing up I wished that I had an older brother to pave the way for me and take care of me. I have older brothers, but they grew up clear across the country and we didn’t know each other until I was a teenager. Bigger brothers are kind of awesome, in my experience. Why not have that dynamic from day one?
My first (full-term) baby was Graham and, oh. How I love being his Momma. He is wired so much like me, which makes us totally get each other. He has those big blue-grey eyes and freckle-splattered nose and quirky humor and makes that Mmmm sound when he hugs me and likes to write stories and draw illustrations and I look at him with amazement on a daily basis. He really is something special.
When Nathan came out I had a minute or so of the “Huh. It’s not a girl” feeling and then I soaked up his sweet newness. He looked nothing like his older brother (or me) and looked one hundred and fifty percent like his Daddy and that has never changed. He is a boy just like his brother and yet is wired so differently. He would rather ride his bike than play Lego and he would rather kick a soccer ball than read a book. Hugs are the food of his soul and if you ask if you can have one, his eyes illuminate and he wraps his gangly self around you. Some people don’t even have to ask and he will accost them with love and, man. He really is something special.
Aside from their unique personalities, there is just something about boys and their Mommas. If you are a Mom and you have a boy, then you know exactly what I am talking about. If you don’t have a boy and are wondering what it’s like to be the Mom of one, the best way that I can explain it is this: Hugs and wrestles, Lego and light sabers, cuddles and fart jokes, Marshmallows and chocolate, dirt smudges and torn jeans. And so, so much more.
These boys of mine are two of the biggest blessings I have ever experienced. Case in point:
Boys rule, man.
Yes, boys do rule! I know EXACTLY what you mean.
We are blessed with our boys, that’s for sure.
What a sweet note!! Awww.
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Boys totally rule!
I only have 1 child and when I was pregnant I wanted a boy so bad. I couldn’t imagine myself raising a girl. When I had the ultrasound and found out we were having a boy my husband and I were trilled!
PS-Now I want a girl too, LOL
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While I will admit to being slightly bummed when we found out our second was also a boy, I am really thrilled that I have my two boys. They are pretty awesome (though quite a little handful when they are 2 and 4.5)
And it looks like the post it’s going to link to below is my one from Tuesday listing the top ten reasons I love having boys – serendipity!
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As a Mom with two boys…17 and 18, they are awesome! I wanted my first to be healthy, boy or girl, but my second I wanted a boy….I love the two of them together.
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I recently know of more and more women wanting boys over girls and not that there is anything wrong with that but I always assumed girls wanted girls/boys wanted boys. I am blessed to be experiencing one of each and both genders are awesome in their own way.
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Such adorable kids! And I had an older brother, so I get it!
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When my sister found out she was having a boy my mom, my sister and I all looked at each like, “huh, what on earth are we gonna do with a boy?!” because it’d been us girls for so long. I can say now, almost 5 years later, that my nephew is the light of all our lives. Boys are awesome.
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SOOOOOO wish I could talk hubs in to at least one kid
and if, SOOOOOOO hope that it’s a boy
- but would be thrilled with a girl, too
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lol…Ali @ Cheaper Than Therapy just wrote a post on girls and moms…and I commented that’s why having a girl is wonderful…now over here I’m going to say the same; having a boy is wonderful too!! Looking forward to my 5 month old becoming older and sharing all the greatness in having a son!
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I love having a boy.
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I am a brother-less Mom (only one younger sister)….and I have a 9 YO son, firstborn (my second is a daughter, now 6 YO). I LOVE having a son. He is crazy, different, emotional, sweet and he makes my heart sing almost every day. When I was pregnant the second time around, I was sharing with a girlfriend how desperately I wanted to experience having a daughter, and my fears that I’d never get to, and she said, “Awh, honey, don’t fret. Just remember, boys always grow up and love their Mothers”. That’s stuck with me, every day.
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The toothy grins are killing me! And yes, I agree, boys are heartbreakingly special.
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This post just warmed my heart! I’m expecting my first (God willing healthy) baby this September and recently found out its going to be a boy. I haven’t been sure what to make of this since I grew up with only a sister and know little about boys but your words make me even more excited about what’s to come.
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I really really wanted a boy first, too. And that’s what we got. Then I really wanted another boy so they could have the whole brotherly bonding thing and we got that too. And then one more for good measure makes this house a whole lot of crazy. Crazy loud and crazy brotherly love!
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Agreed. Boys are a fun and a unique treasure. Before two of mine came along, the thought of having a boy terrified me. Now, I can not imagine it any other way. Yay for sons – and all their fart-y ways.
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funny, I always wanted a boy first. For mostly the same reasons, but I dunno having a boy first was all I ever wanted. Then I had that same moment when my second was born where I was all “um, you’re not a girl?” which of course quickly turned into love and excitement and everything in between. I’m still thankful everyday that I did end up with a girl but I wouldn’t change having two boys first for ANYTHING.
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Yup.
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Everyone (including me) thinks T is having a boy. I think she’d be an amazing mom to boys. Of course she’ll be an amazing mom to either and/or both. (Just like you!)
I seriously cannot wait! to know if I’m going to have a niece or a nephew first. Aaaaaah, the anticipation!
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YEAH BOYS RULE!!!!!!
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I have the opposite…two older girls and then a boy. And yes, boys love differently than the girls. Not more or less, just different.
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