Being a woman is hard.

I am not talking about the “glass ceiling” or any other work-related item. I personally have not experienced said ceiling, and have found that in my profession (CA), women seem to have done alright.

I am talking about the issue of body image.

Women are bombarded daily with media images of air-brushed (and starving) celebrities. They are held up to be the ideal. They are the unattainable standard that we all strive to attain.

Reality hits and we realize that we cannot be as they “are”. We focus on our negative attributes. I wish that my inner thigh would high-tail it out of town. That my butt would transform from a billboard of vast expanse to a firm, tight, little mound of roundness. It is so very easy to focus on the flaws.

The media is quick to point them out, and I am a sucker to fall prey to the lie that all that I am is just not good enough.

I read an article recently that encouraged me to focus on the positives. Yes, I know that God created all of me to be beautiful, but sometimes I beg to differ. A little. Not so much as to encourage a lightning bolt, but a little.

I sat down and thought about it. What part of my physical appearance would I not change, no matter what? What physical attribute did I never complain about, or wish was different?

It was an easy answer. My eyes.


I have never once in my life wished that they were bluer, greener, or browner.

They have gotten me both into and out of trouble. I like them. A lot. I love them, even.

Tell me what feature that you love about yourself. I know that there has to be at least one.

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  1. llisa April 13, 2008 5:14 am edit

    You have GORGEOUS eyes:) That is MY choice also…MY eyes! I have NEVER wanted to change them and like YOU they have gotten me INTO and OUT of some sticky situations:) It’s good to pick ONE now if we could all keep going and going and listing we would beat that BATTLE of image issues…..I love how you share your body image woes…I had an eating disorder all my life….had to go to therapy and that helped but it wasnt until I had children that THE issues really went away THE day I saw those 2 pink lines MY healthy habits instantly came into effect and I believe it is because I am a mama now that I put it into perspective BUT I have my days where DEAR LORD I wish MY body could look different! Thanks for making me SEE :) that the positives are there..

  2. Beth April 13, 2008 5:24 am edit

    I agree that your eyes are exquisite.

    I also have to say that my favorite part of me is my eyes. They are blue with a whitish water drop mark in the middle…kind of like yours are with the brown, mine are like that with the middle part lighter.

    The only thing I’ve ever wished is that they were less bloodshot after a night of caring for my kiddo! Who wouldn’t wish that? :)

  3. Ali April 13, 2008 5:41 am edit

    your eyes = stunning.

    i have awesome hair.
    and skin.

    Ali’s last blog post..things i have learned this week?

  4. Jen April 13, 2008 6:30 am edit

    I’ve always liked my shoulders.

    You do have lovely eyes, Ange.

    Jen’s last blog post..Captured *Edited*

  5. Amanda Brown April 13, 2008 6:52 am edit

    Nice baby blues.
    Even though I gripe about it sometimes, I feel pretty lucky to have a head of thick, full hair. Maybe I should grow it out again? I am never sure what to do with it.

    Amanda Brown’s last blog post..Girl Power

  6. christy April 13, 2008 7:11 am edit

    I’ve got to get me one of them lenses. Nice!
    I’ve always been amazed by your eyes. From the first day I met you back when we each had but one child. What the heck!

    christy’s last blog post..Borded.

  7. sizzle April 13, 2008 7:15 am edit

    Your eyes are very striking and beautiful, that’s for sure. :)

    I wouldn’t change my eyes either. They are often the color of amber and the lashes are long.

    sizzle’s last blog post..Spring Is In the World

  8. Kami April 13, 2008 7:35 am edit

    Your eyes are amazing and your hair? Also amazing. Even when it channels Monica.

    I think I could pick quite a few things I like but you know what, I never focus on those.. only my thighs and butt and tummy. But I like my feet (weird I know). I wouldn’t change a thing about me feet.

    I need to work on this, no?


    Kami’s last blog post..Happy, Happy Day

  9. bethany actually April 13, 2008 8:52 am edit

    I do like my eyes, and I know I am blessed with good hair, but I’ve always wanted brown eyes and have at times wished for black or curly hair.

    I’ve never ever wanted to change my smile. It makes me and other people happy, and I’m sure it’s gotten me out of trouble a time or two.

    bethany actually’s last blog post..Annalie’s web

  10. Shalet April 13, 2008 9:21 am edit

    You do have gorgeous eyes speckled with blue and green. I like my eyes too – but have never been able to photograph them like that. But the one part of me I’ve never even thought to change is my freckles. They probably cause me problems in that they make me look younger than I am (this may be a blessing later). But I love having them and will never cover them up.

    Shalet’s last blog post..Toilets, triathlons and tutus

  11. Victoria April 13, 2008 9:22 am edit

    Oh gosh…. I’ll have to think about this one.

    My fingernails are pretty darn awesome, naturally! But, it seems a bit odd liking a dead part of yourself so….. I’ll toe the line and say I’ve always liked my eyes too :)

    Victoria’s last blog post..Strange But True Thing I Discovered Accidentally All By Myself #342

  12. Michele April 13, 2008 11:13 am edit

    Agreed – your eyes are absolutely beautiful!

    I don’t mind my eyes, or my lips for that matter! (Isn’t “I Love My Lips” a Veggie Tales song?!?)

  13. Hannah April 13, 2008 12:27 pm edit

    My eyes, too! I love that I don’t even really need to wear mascara, I have long dark lashes and I’m proud of them. My eye colour is a pretty unique one – kind of brown, kind of hazel.

    YOUR eyes are gorgeous!! But ALL of you is!

    Hannah’s last blog post..Peek-a-boo ?

  14. Chris April 13, 2008 1:29 pm edit

    Your eyes are beautiful and unique!!!

    I also have a thing for my eyes: they are bluish gray which is fairly unusual
    I also like my legs: long (thanks to my paternal gene pool) and toned (thanks to running lots and lots of miles)

  15. Kristabella April 13, 2008 1:51 pm edit

    I LOVE your eyes!

    That would be my answer too! I love my eyes!

    Kristabella’s last blog post..Another Post Where I Talk About My Teeth

  16. joyce April 13, 2008 2:59 pm edit

    your eyes are va va voom! seriously amazing.

    is it sad that i can’t think of a body part that i LOVE? i really don’t.

    joyce’s last blog post..No place like home?

  17. Chelsey April 13, 2008 3:28 pm edit

    wowza those eyes…stunnning..

    Its so hard to think of something you love about youself, but honestly, i liek my hair, rightnow im not diggin the cut, but it does what i want it to, and its nice a smooth…

    Chelsey’s last blog brain

  18. Meg April 13, 2008 3:43 pm edit

    Even thought my teeth are a bit stained (but not a whole lot) from the (former) smoking habit and the (permanent) coffee habit, I love my smile. It’s ginormous most of the time, and it, too, gets me into and out of, a lot of trouble.
    You do have quite the stellar eyes there, I like the little brown blobbies in them!

    Meg’s last blog post..Old LJ post

  19. christy April 13, 2008 4:18 pm edit

    I forgot….
    I love my dimples.

    christy’s last blog post..Borded.

  20. Krista April 13, 2008 5:39 pm edit

    I like my wrists.

    And my eyes. I love that they are electric blue, and that I have photos of me and my sister and our two parents in a row and we all have the same electric blue eyes. Natural, blue, blue eyes…all 4 of us.

    Krista’s last blog post..A Lovely Tea

  21. Beth April 13, 2008 5:59 pm edit

    I love my eyes – they always get me noticed. My eyes are the same shade blue as my aunt’s and grandmother’s – the only people in my family (either side) with blue eyes. I love my shoulders, too. I love the way I look in a sleeveless shirt or dress. Also? I love my butt. It’s taken me a long time to accept it but it sure looks nice in a pair of jeans.

    Beth’s last blog post..Productivity, I am your bitch.

  22. The Over-Thinker April 13, 2008 7:01 pm edit

    I’m going to go with my eyes and my lips.
    And Not my butt.

    The Over-Thinker’s last blog post..Sucking in Public

  23. Sharon April 13, 2008 7:28 pm edit

    I like my eyes. They’re a cool hazel-ish colour, and they change colour slightly, depending on my moods. I think that’s pretty sweet. I also have a tiny little freckle in my right eye, which adds to its appeal. I think they’re a bit on the tiny side, but otherwise I love my eyes.

    Sharon’s last blog post..Birthday flowers

  24. Sharon April 13, 2008 7:29 pm edit

    Weird. I think the computer ate my post, so I’ll try again.

    I love my eyes. Even though they’re a bit on the small side, they’re a cool colour (hazel), and change slightly, depending on my moods. I also have a little freckle at the bottom of my right eye, which is pretty darn cute.

    Sharon’s last blog post..Birthday flowers

  25. Kate April 13, 2008 8:06 pm edit

    Not my hair, not my eyelashes, not my knees… oh wait! Something I LIKE about myself! Definitely my nose – it’s the perfect size for my face and not too bad looking (if I do say so myself). Thanks for reminding us to focus on the positive today!

    Kate’s last blog post..Charging the iPod…

  26. Elizabeth April 13, 2008 9:14 pm edit

    Toughie. I’m feeling pretty happy with my eyes, too, I suppose. They are, after all, “the window to your soul.”

    Elizabeth’s last blog post..Track Time

  27. K April 14, 2008 7:08 am edit

    I agree with you that the eyes have it. I am also a blue eyed brunette. I love it!

    K’s last blog post..Allergies and parties

  28. Tonni April 14, 2008 7:32 am edit

    I like… hmm…
    My hair, my hands, my feet and my face.
    Except for my chin (at the moment!) b/c its all broken out… hormones!!!

    Tonni’s last blog post..Baby Fever

  29. shareen April 14, 2008 8:11 am edit

    I love my skin, I’ve always been told how soft it is and I love that. Also, I think my hands are pretty – long skinny fingers. And weirdly, I really like the little thing between my nose and my mouth (is it called a cupid? I think i heard that once but I really don’t know), it’s just so soft and dainty and goes unnoticed. So many tiny features…

    shareen’s last blog post..This Post is Brought to You by the Letters D, A, and N

  30. Carolyn April 14, 2008 8:37 am edit

    Yowzers… You do have great eyes. All those Hollywood ‘it’ girls have nothing on you.

    I must say though, this was a strange post for me because I don’t have a negative body image, but I couldn’t think of one feature I love about myself. Strange. I’m actually indifferent about my looks. I don’t dislike myself in any way, but nothing spectacular jumps out at me either.

    I suppose if I had to choose, I like my smile. I have very white, straight teeth. It’s probably the one thing a stranger might compliment me on and it’s the one thing I enjoy most in photos of myself. So I guess I’ll go with that. My smile.

    Thanks for making me take the time to appreciate myself Angella!!

    Carolyn’s last blog post..double bonus.

  31. Rachel Joy April 14, 2008 8:37 am edit

    Not sure about what my favourite bit of me is right now. Feeling better now that I’ve gotten some new summer tops that actually fit for this year.

    My dad is across the room from me and can see the computer screen. He asked, “Are those eyes an advertisement?”, totally unknowing about what you had written. They really are stunning, my friend.

  32. Heather April 14, 2008 9:56 am edit

    My hair. I guess I do change it by cutting and colouring (just a little !) but I don’t wish for new hair. Even though curls would be fun, I have always really liked my hair. I know I don’t have hair that others envy but I love it. It is soft and manageable. It never looks ‘bad’, just not always super good. I have never known issues with frizziness.

    I love your eyes and your hair and your smile !

  33. Karen April 14, 2008 10:17 am edit

    I really like my legs, scars and all. :)

    Karen’s last blog post..the ensuite

  34. Amanda Franks April 14, 2008 10:35 am edit

    I would say my hands. Not so much because of how they look, but what they do. They create, the comfort, they cuddle. They always express what’s inside, where true beauty lies.

  35. nancy bruno April 14, 2008 10:36 am edit

    I love that you took a moment to look at yourself and found the beauty that is you. The Beautiful Women Project is about that: finding the beauty within and around us, not just what is put in front of us on the television, movie screen, and advertisements. The thirty five women who share their stories and their images were brave enough to share with the world their lives and their bodies for everyone to see that you don’t have to be a model or a celebrity to be beautiful. If the exhibit does not come to your community, check out the book based on the project: Beautiful Women, Celebrating Beauty in Stories and Stills. Thank You for sharing your insight with all of us.

  36. slynnro April 14, 2008 11:36 am edit

    My arms- they have always been effortlessly thin and due to my arm workouts, fairly strong.

    slynnro’s last blog post..In which I continue to paint myself in an Oh-So-Positive light.

  37. Red Lotus Mama April 14, 2008 11:56 am edit

    I have recently become so unhappy with my body that I started a new blog to help track my dieting: I totally agree … we are bombarded with pictures that are completely unrealistic for the non-celebrity working mom. So, I really like this post. It has actually taken me some time to think about what part of me do I “love” and I actually came up with a few things … now all of these things need some “pampering”, but they have always been “perfect” enough that I don’t want to change them. They are my lips, my fingernails and my feet. My lips and fingernails are always “naked” because I like them how they are … their shape, their natural color. My feet are small and shaped nicely, but scrub and lotion them almost every night. Thank you for making me think about them again.

  38. Anna April 14, 2008 3:54 pm edit

    Your eyes, wow!!! great photo too!
    Me….I like my eyes and ears and neck the most.
    Least would be butt, stomach and hips, ugh.

    Anna’s last blog post..Fresh spring air

  39. Jenn April 14, 2008 7:55 pm edit

    My hair

    Jenn’s last blog post..Since I Have Both Hands To Type, here’s a post

  40. gorillabuns April 15, 2008 6:21 am edit

    I’m alright with my huge honking lips.

  41. She Likes Purple April 15, 2008 10:16 am edit

    Very good question. My hands.

    She Likes Purple’s last blog post..Timeline: Fourteen And Fifteen

  42. Jack April 17, 2008 10:33 pm edit

    Oy, yet another post that makes me happy that I am a man. I have enough to deal with without all the additional crap that women have.

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