I have been a little sensitive the last few days. It’s about the right time of the month for me to be this way. As a result, things people have said to me about my baby girl have started to make me grumpy. I should just rent The Notebook, have a good cry, and be done with it. In the meantime, I’m going to post about it here.
I know that people don’t intend to be insensitive, just as I don’t intend to be insensitive (yet have a remarkable talent for insensitivity some days). Instead of being a smarty pants, I will respond the comments with pictures. Her beauty says it all.
Comments/questions that I have fielded lately:
1. Is she ever going to get any hair?
I could say, “Oh, it’s growing, but I just shave it. Think of the cost I’ll save on hair products!”
Instead I will reply with this:
2. Look at those teeth! They’re pretty big, hey?
I could say, “All the better to bite you with.”
Instead I will reply with this:
3. Her eyes are SO huge! I have never seen eyes that large on a baby.
I could reply, “She actually has X-Ray vision. She loves your leopard-print underwear.”
Instead I will reply with this:
I know that people are making small-talk, but it’s just hard sometimes, you know? It’s difficult being a girl with all of the body image/beauty insecurities that come with being part of the female gender. I was an awkward teenager; shy and chubby and not at all comfortable in my own skin. Heck, some days I still get flashes of those awfully uncomfortable feelings of inadequacy. So when anyone says anything other than the fact that she is absolutely gorgeous, those teenage feelings return and my Mother Bear instinct roars into action. I’m dreading the day when somebody says/does something to her that makes her feel any less than the perfect example of God’s handiwork that she is.
Because in my eyes? She’s the prettiest thing that you ever did see. She is breathtakingly beautiful in her baldness and random tooth-sprouting.
If you dare say otherwise to her, may a flock of a thousand seagulls swarm you and pelt you with droppings.
31 Comments
Since I’ve already outed myself as a reader of your blog I’ve decided that I might as well comment more.
One lesson I learned from my mother, at quite a young age, was that you always, always must tell mothers that their baby is beautiful. I knew, even as a child, that this was wise advice (thanks mom!). Also, even though you probably won’t believe me now, I truly do think that Emily is absolutely beautiful!
As for the bald thing, my older sister was pretty much bald until she was 3 and she has the most gorgeous head of blond, curly hair you have ever seen. She’s complimented on it regularly by envious women and smitten men. I have a sneaking suspicion that Emily’s got a head of hair in her future thats beauty will rival my sisters.
Comment by Alayne on July 25th, 2007 @ 3:30 pmOh, Ange. It’s OK to be sensitive sometimes (aka: “my kid’s birthday party is ruined because it rained today, waaaaaaa!”); it’s part of life. Emily is perfect and beautiful. ![]()
Boy, one look at her and I’m convinced she is one of the cutest around! (And I’m not just saying that!)
Comment by Michele on July 25th, 2007 @ 5:20 pm“Is she ever going to get any hair?” I feel your pain. I heard this with both of my babies. More so with Taylor. The girl thing I guess. Like it is her right of passage to have beautiful hair at birth. Most of my comments came from dear old MIL so that explains a lot. Taylor was bald till well after her second birthday. But bald or a head full of hair she was and is absolutely beautiful. (pictures coming this weekend, I swear!!) As for Emily she is absolutely beautiful. Just tell anyone who asks that you are going to start putting Rogain in her bottle. : ) The teeth issue for me was the complete opposite. Taylor cut her first tooth at 14 months. Everytime my MIL saw her she would say is she ever going to get teeth? No. She is going to be a toothless wonder for years. Although if she could see her now she would say the same thing. She lost her 5 tooth last night. Think the tooth fairy needs to get a loan. ![]()
Rt is over 2 and is just now looking like he has a small mane growing in. He was bald for such a long time and had/has such a BIG head. “Wow, what a big baby”, “Um, he’s 50% for his age, so where does the “Big” comment come from?” I guess we can never WIN because if they said he was small, I would have been defending him for that as well. It’s tough being a mom, isn’t it?
I think she is just lovely, bald and all! ![]()
I think you so hit the nail on the head when you commented on the body image stuff. It’s not that I actually care if other people think my children are beautiful, but that’s all I want my children to hear so that they never grow up doubting how truly amazing they are! It’s my biggest fear, not raising self-confident women and I think you really hit it today! Thanks for sharing!
Comment by Amanda Franks on July 25th, 2007 @ 7:03 pmPeople are so crass…they don’t think before they speak. Someone asked me if Porter (10 months) was 18 months. Um no, I say. Oh he is a big boy. Are you telling me he is fat? The person walked away. He is just big boy. Just wait til a kiddo has something wrong, my little Abby has glasses…someone asked me…Can she have Lasik? Um…she was 2 at the time. People have nerve! She is beautiful with her baldness. Abby was bald til 18 months…some day she will complain cause her hair is too long, too curly, too something…show her this post! Happy night!
Comment by Amanda on July 25th, 2007 @ 7:07 pmOH Ange. I think I would be feeling sensitive like you are (as it’s definitely in my nature).Your baby is perfect and it’s been so great watching her grow and change as I snoop on your blog all the time and never comment- like a bad friend and a BAD blogger. You’re right, she’s is God’s marvelous creation, just like Mrs. B always teaches!!
Comment by Stephanie Riemer on July 25th, 2007 @ 7:37 pmI don’t understand why people think they have the right to say crap like that…so insensitive and nonsensical! She is absolutely adorably perfect, just how God wanted her to look. Does anyone know a bald 5 year old running around? She will get hair people, what is it to you when….it just makes her beautiful eyes and teeth get more attention before her great mane comes in.
Comment by Filtering Life on July 25th, 2007 @ 8:18 pmBabies are people too! Sometimes people are just insensitive. She’s absolutely beautifuly, in every. single. way.
Comment by shauna on July 25th, 2007 @ 8:22 pmEmily is the most perfect example of beauty there could ever be. Since I don’t have my own baby girl (who would of course have to be the most beautiful baby girl in the world, because that’s what every mother says) I can honestly say that Emily is the most beautiful baby girl I know!!! She’s stunningly pretty and adorable and CUTE beyond all description. Just PERFECT.
Comment by Hannah on July 25th, 2007 @ 10:01 pmAww… you made me weepy and laugh in one post.
People do say some really inappropriate and stupid things, they just don’t think before the speak. And when people are referring to your kids it makes it 10000 time worse! I think your feelings are normal and good!
Your kids are super lucky to have you as their mommy, they are all seriously some of the happiest kids I have ever seen.
(Granted I have never met them, but I really think they are happy!)
Emily is perfect and she always will be!
You are not the only one who thinks she is DIVINE… we do too and we aren’t even related!!! I had NO hair for 2 years and now look at my thick hair that people comment on ALL the time. Miss Coco has been slow in the hair department, all the bettter for later on ‘they’ say…. People just like to fill silence with silly unthought about comments… xx
Comment by Melanie on July 26th, 2007 @ 3:14 amBig beautiful eyes rock (says someone with small eyes). Emily is a gorgeous girl with tons of personality. I think we are way more aware now of helping our daughters (and sons) have a healthy body image so I hope she always loves the person who looks back at her in a mirror.
Comment by trish on July 26th, 2007 @ 3:57 amWe all want our kids to be perfect and spared from the miseries we had growing up! At Emily’s age Abby had huge teeth with a big diastima (sp?) and her eyes were still a little crossed. I feared for the worst!
Emily is sweet pie with gorgeous bright eyes and the hair will come. Fear not!
Comment by Jen on July 26th, 2007 @ 7:24 amShe is PERFECT! and I was bald ’til I was 2 and my family LOVES to remind me of it ![]()
Ang- that little baldy with big baby blues and a toothy grin? Cutest little thing I ever did lay eyes on. I’ve never even met her, but your photography skills have totally captured her sparkling personality. She’s happy, she’s healthy, she’s adorable!
Comment by Kendrah on July 26th, 2007 @ 8:49 amPeople tell me ALL THE TIME…ALLTHETIME how BIG and ENORMOUS and CHUBBY and FAT my baby is. They’ve “never seen a baby with such legs!” Sometimes when it’s a girl…it gets a little hard to hear.
Our girls ARE beautiful and perfect and NOBODY gonna tell me different. NOBODY!
I’m with ya all the way sister may we band together and fight to the bitter end.
Comment by christy on July 26th, 2007 @ 8:53 amBald babies are cuter anyway, right? I was bald and so were my boys! I had one mother always tell me how huge Eric was when he was a baby, he was average but she was very rude and she now has a baby boy that is chubbier and I just keep my mouth shut. Don’t you hate PMS ughhh.
Comment by Christina on July 26th, 2007 @ 12:39 pmShe’s gorgeous! And starting to look more and more like you! She’s very lucky sexy mamacita that you are!
People speak without thinking a lot it’s frustrating!
Emily is totally adorable. Period.
Annalie didn’t really get any hair to speak of till she was about two. Till it comes in, you don’t have to worry as much about fighting a toddler for hair-washing, combing out tangles, etc., at least! ![]()
Hair? Bald babies are the CUTEST! Bald is best. (Both my babies were bald, I loved it!)
Her teeth look like baby teeth to me - also CUTE.
And her eyes? TOTALLY GORGEOUS. Her friends are going to envy her later in life for her gorgeous eyes.
People are mean. At the end of my pregnancy, I just glared people down when they told me I was huge - I think that’s what I’ll do to people if they make mean comments about my kids … or just ignore them … or … I’m not sure what the honorable thing would be.
Comment by Jen on July 27th, 2007 @ 1:00 pmRevel in your perfect and gorgeous baby Angella!
People can be really dumb sometimes - I could have Bec dressed in a pink frilly dress and hat and STILL have her called a boy. Yeah, we’re just trying to enhance his feminine side, *eye roll*
Are you kidding me? I just read this post… must have missed it somehow.
Miss Emily, and frankly all babies (and I say that because I don’t have one, but want one) are beautiful because of the miracles that they are. She’s gorgeous!
Just as she is.
Comment by reddirtroad on July 31st, 2007 @ 10:11 pmWow, that’d sure be a whole lot of seagull poop! Those things can cover a lot of ground with one plop!
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She is ABSOLUTELY perfect and adorable in every way (as are your boys). And the pictures you take capture her adorableness perfectly.
Comment by Lori on July 25th, 2007 @ 3:16 pm